Having walked these corridors coining several nuggets here and there, I am thankful to welcome Kevin Shitsukane as our guest contributor. Kevin comes with a wealth of knowledge on life, relationships, and Christian living. A resident and citizen of Nairobi, Kenya, a father, husband, minister of the Word, and dedicated insurance broker, he is here to grace us with knowledge overflowing. Please make welcome, Kevin Shitsukane……..
As a young man or woman, many will tell you this and that about marriage. Some swing to the extreme of either too good or too bad, depending on the background. However, many are in total oblivion of what this institution is or what it calls for.
Marriage is neither westernized nor africanized. Marriage is a Gift of God packaged as a generational Blessing.
Genesis 2:18 KJV — And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
It is a covenant between a mature man and a mature woman.
Marriage is not for Contract but for Destiny. That is why it is a Covenant relationship. Covenant relationship is mutual desire and drive to both give and receive for healthy growth.
Marriage is a Mystery, where you entrust your life and privacy to a stranger. Being ready to drop the name of your father and bear the name of your partner.
Ephesians 5:31 KJV For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
Ephesians 5:32 KJV This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
You do not need a perfect marriage; you need a great marriage. There will be challenges in Marriage, but the fact that another’s marriage is not enjoyable does not qualify a judgment across-the-board that all marriages are bad.
Always remember, a headache is peculiar to the carrier. Make your own work and healthy through knowledge.
1 Peter 3:7 KJV Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
A marriage certificate at a wedding is simply a letter of invitation saying, “Welcome to Hard work.” No good marriage is picked on the streets. Every good Marriage has been tirelessly laboured upon.
That said, it is imperative to appreciate that men Think Deep but very slowly… Women think faster.
It was discovered that on the 29th week of a zygote who is boy in the womb, ‘something wipes his right hemisphere’. However, nothing happens for the girl child zygote. In scientific terms, male brains have more connections within each hemisphere, while female brains are more interconnected between hemispheres (University of Pennsylvania). That is why females can multitask because they use both hemispheres.
Psychology will tell you that a man will MAXIMALLY speak 25,000 words in a day WHILE a Woman says a MINIMUM of 250,000words.
While these differences are the causes of several marriage headaches, it is they that spice it up when well appreciated.
What is marriage to you?
If it is a prison pit, you have the power to work it out.